Let's be honest... Long distance dating is not ideal, and I don't think it ever will be - but that that doesn't mean you can't survive it, & still ✨ grow through it ✨
Heres 9 things that have helped Mr. T and I continue to grow our relationship, despite being 400 miles apart for 2 semesters....
1. First things first, clear and frequent communication helps to stay connected and work through conflict / misunderstandings before it happens.
2. You're going to want to talk to each other 24/7. Some days it's really fun. Other days it makes it hard to get / let the other person get stuff done. I don't care how cheesy it is, you may be each others world, but this doesn't mean you aren't an individual first. It's attractive when someone has their own goals, and works to achieve them. #togetherforever but not glued at the hip;)
3. Plan when you want to see each other throughout the semester. Whether it's a schedule of who drives down, or every three weeks, etc etc. Looking forward to seeing each other helps you focus on the excitement of planning fun dates, and makes you cherish the time you spend together. (I'm not crying, you are)
4. Update your friends and family often... but not too often. Mr. T already knows I'm obsessed with him, but my roommates don't have to think that too (in the worst way possible) ... remember to play it cool:) You can gush about him to your mom and BFF, but not everybody wants the tea sis... sorry but it's true.
5. PLAN DATE NIGHTS. You heard me. Do it. This helps communicate that you are willing to set time aside to really focus on them. No more scrolling on Instagram when you're talking on the phone. Speaking of -->
6. Be present when talking to each other. I can't tell you how many times I've thought "Oh, this would be a great time to write emails, or scroll through Pinterest" which is totally distracting btw. Your brain can't multi task. I don't care what you people say.
7. Trust takes work - and patience. If you've had trust issues due to relationships in your past, work on them. Now is the perfect time to do so. Lack of trust is a lack of safety. Just because you might be hurting (which is ok) try and evaluate how your forecasted emotions effect the other person.
8. Know each others love languages + always try and learn more about them. Mr. T appreciates words of affirmation... well guess who originally sucked at being "all cute and lovey"? yeah well I've learned a lot, because I want to communicate that I adore him how he understands it most.
✨✨BONUS✨✨ Heres a list of lovey things for each love language
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